The following checklist will give you an idea of the variety of
tactics that a controlling/abusive partner can use. This list is not
all-inclusive, but it may reveal some significant patterns of
behavior that you are being subjected to.
| Does your partner embarrass or make
fun of you in front of your family or friends? |
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| Does your partner tell you
that you are nothing without him/her? |
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Does your partner treat you rough – grab, push, pinch,
shove, choke or hit you? |
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| Does your partner ever threaten to
hurt you physically? |
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| Has your partner ever pressured you to
be involved in any sexual activity that made you feel
uncomfortable or degraded? |
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| Has your partner forced you to have
sex? |
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| Does your partner cause destruction to
your personal property or pets, or take anger out on
inanimate objects (wall, etc.)? |
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| Does your partner use alcohol or drugs
as an excuse for saying hurtful things or abusing you? |
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| Does your partner blame you for how
he/she feels or acts? |
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| Does your partner make you feel like
there is “no way out” of the relationship? |
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| Do you believe that you can help your
partner change if only you changed something about yourself? |
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| Do you feel like no matter what you
do, your partner is never happy with you? |
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| Do you stay with your partner because
you are afraid of what your partner would do if you broke
up? |
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| Do you feel that your partner keeps
you away from your family and friends? |
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| Do you feel that your partner is
overly possessive, keeping track of your time and
whereabouts? |
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